Alumnews – April & May 2021
April & May
“I love Dreaming because in my dreams you are actually mine”
In my very first Article “Is Getting married one of the hardest decision for this generation? Why? ” I concluded with a statement “Marriage is a compromise for one sided lovers” So in this write-up I would like to highlight actually What it feels to fall in One sided Love.
Often people are confused about their feelings of like and love. If you like someone, it means you love something about them. Maybe you love his/her hair, smile, looks, personality/attitude etc.; these are part of that person. You can’t love a person without liking a thing or two about him/her.
This love starts with liking. It only grows over time and then one day you realize that you have already fallen in love with that person. This is where you start challenging yourself. If you are brave enough you can confess what you feel but if not, it’s really going to be troublesome. You will be confused and scared thinking that opening up may lead to loss of a good friend. We continue to love them even after knowing it may hurt us, at the end, because loving someone is not just being happy; it can also be sad. It’s called sacrifice. We don’t really want to get hurt; no one wants to. But if you really love that person, you will choose that thing, sacrificing your own happiness, just to see him/her happy.
Our heart may break but the important thing is to keep the trust and friendship we share with that person. We want to continue laughing with her while walking home together, to discuss on various topics with him/her, to share meal with him/her, to look at him/her freely, to comfort him/her and to be by his/her side as a friend that he/she trusts so much. We must be happy just being with him/her and that must be more than enough for us because what we really desire is his/her happiness. We just desire to see that pretty face with a bright smile on it.
We may get hurt at the end of the story but we know that every wound will tend to heal and every broken heart will mend itself. People will continue to move on as the time passes. What is important is living with it gladly, enjoying it and never fear of losing it because we all know nothing is constant in this world. Even if we lose something, be sad for a while, accept and then move on because there is a reason for everything. We must continue to live, laugh and love.
“Do cry because it’s over, SMILE because it happened.”
Alumnus of Salesian College, Siliguri campus